As I read more and more erotic romances I’ve realized how arousing the written word can be. Sometimes the way an author writes a scene is so totally hot and erotic it gets me all tingly inside. Here’s a perfect example posted by Lauren Dane on her facebook, it’s a snippet from her upcoming book “Never Enough” “Take your time.” He slid his hand up his belly, flicking his nipple ring. “Because I will be getting all up in you when you’re finished.” These 26 words got me all fluttery inside…had me having goose bumps in 106 degree weather, rendered me useless for the rest of the day.
I’ve watched porn before, yeah it turns me on, but I’ve realized reading erotic romances can be just as much of a turn on, if not more of a turn on, because I am reading their emotions and feelings. NOW I don’t think reading erotic romance with a partner would have the same effect as watching porn with a partner would. HMMM, might have to try that out, you know anything in the name of research and education 😉
It’s been about 7 hours since I read the NE snippet, and the thought of his nipple ring flick and his “because I will be all up in you” statement still have me all fluttery. It’s been such an intriguing thought that I decided to blog about it.
So does watching porn or reading erotic romances work for you? For me watching porn is for a quick fix, reading erotic romances is a slow build up that can keep the flutters going throughout the book and beyond.
A few more things to ponder:
- Do you like soft porn or hardcore “fuck me hard” porn? (soft does nothing for me)
- Does watching the “unusual” turn you on? i.e. lesbian or gay porn when your 100% hetero, menage porn when you know you would never participate in one. BDSM porn? (depends on my mood)
- Does looking at porn pictures instead of movies work? (movies, need to see the action)
- Do you need or like to watch porn with a partner or just when you need some self lovin’? (self lovin, I don’t want to watch someone with a better body than me while with a partner)
- Does phone sex turn you on? (cannot get into it, at all)
- Sexting, is it a turn on for you? (yes)
They say men are visual, so I’m guessing that’s why watching porn is so popular with them. If any men are brave enough to answer please share.
Are you brave enough to share??? (my answers)
Enjoy your weekend!!
Naughty D’ (feelin’ especially naughty tonight)
Watching porn with hubby is a turn on, especially if it is MM or MMF. No, he isn’t quite straight. 😉 And me? I’ve said for years that I am a bit bent and twisted. :p For just a quick relaxation, I will grab my Nook and find one of the shorter books I have and after the naughty parts, have some self lovin’. Usually that is about 1 or 2 in the am and I am TRYING to go to sleep!!! LOL!
For the porn, hard core, baby! Soft stuff just didn’t quite have it. Used to have Skinamax (Cinemax) so I know the diff.
Stacy Wilson
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Hey D, everybody must be asleep or either hiddin somewhere being naughty on their own. So many questions, where do I begin…..Have never really gotten into porn, maybe I wasn’t watching the right movie. But, give me a good raunchy book and I will, well……you know. I tried phone sex with the hubby, but we were horrible at the dirty talk over the phone. However, we have discovered that we both really like sexting. It’s so much easier to write it than it is to say it. I can’t wait to read what everyone else has to say on the subject. And I LOVED the snipet from Lauren Dane’s book. That is going to be another scorcher. I’ve been waiting for this one.
D–THE PICTURE IS HOT!!!!
Well I was going to be the first to bite but as I I read each of your questions I saw that you had done the work for me. Truly each of your answers matched the voice in my head nearly verbatim. With the exception of watching without a partner, my reasoning went more along the lines of not wanting to be critiqued with a pro in the room too. I’m a realist, there is no comparison. Their careers are safe from me! Soft porn is more of a tease (IMO) it sets the spark to paper but lacks the flash to get the burn. Yes for me reading erotic stories is very often the most exillerating slow burn while watching porn is more of a lightening strike. Sexting is a fun way I let my husband know I am in a perpetual state of horniness and he needs to be prepared for me to jump him at my first opportunity. Okay, now that I’ve shared way to much I’ll shut up.
I used to really be able to get aroused from reading erotic, but not so much anymore. I like to watch porn, but don’t do that as often either, if I want to get off, I’ll go find the hubby’s video’s and watch.
I like “fuck me hard porn”. I am interested in BDSM, I think it would be hot. I like to look at pics, but movies are better! I like to watch porn by myseld, and then get off, but if I watch with a partner, I usually get fucked!. Sorry never tried phone sex. Never did sexting either. I worked at a bar/store once in the old days and they had the old satalitte, before you had to pay for the XXX Channels and hubby was there with me, we had to watch and erotic channel, then go to the bathroom and have sex, so he could go home and I could go back to work!
Thanks Dragon Lady, my guilty secret is reading/watching M/M/F menages.
Thanks KurvyK, F/F/M isn’t my thing but that picture is uber hot 🙂
And I so agree about the sexting vs phone sex 😉
Oh, I was going to share, that I was reading Cherise’s Don’s of Dark Haven 2 and taking care of business myself, the other afternoon, when I got caught, hubby came looking for me, but when he saw what I was doing, he left. I was so far into it that I couldn’t quit, so at least I took care of it. LOL.
Renee, I soo agree with you. On the sexting, I don’t have a hubby, but I can see how it would be a positive tool 😉
Tiss..lol…that fevered rush in the bathroom or parking lot of a bar….NOT that I know anything about that 😉
Thanks for sharing ladies =)
And yes that snippet………holy friggin hell! I’m never gonna get sleep tonight. Lol
Save your pennies ladies. Never Enough is coming out Sept 6.
dang KurvyK I had read twice, I thought it said “save your penises” penis on the brain much??? lol
For me watching porn is for a quick fix, I like watching M/M or the M/F/M. Along w/ that I like the guys a little rough so soft core definitely wont work. Never tried phone sex but I like sexting and being a little naughty on oovoo & skype.
Dragon, you are quite daring. Can’t get significant other to watch M/M without him getting that “funny” feeling or crossing his legs. How do you manage it and do you “both” enjoy it? Personally, I’m a M/M/F gal.
I like watching porn, MMF and domination. Definately the ‘fuck me hard’ type, because lets face it, we all want to be fucked hard!! Well at least I do ;). Phone sex, not so much, but sexting is a yes for me. Hubby does night shift but I do get into trouble for getting him hard for 10 out of 12 hr shift. Lorelei James gets me in the mood for any type of loving. Any time, any place, I have my favourite scenes bookmarked and ready to go 🙂
from anonymous #1 some visuals for you ladies. http://cupoporn.wordpress.com/
Oh, Sweet Lord in Heaven!! My morning coffee will NEVER be the same again!! Bless you and them
Cec
Watching porn with my hubby is HOT!!! But reading erotic romance does it for me. I love the slow build up.
I’ve never had phone sex or sexting but I woudn’t mind trying it.
Love the pic!!
I love my erotic romances, and good MM or MMF and have been craving more visual stimulation as well ! Hubby is NOT interested in anything MM. Where do you get your hard porn fix? I hesitate to download anything due to kids on the computer. Thanks!
Do you like soft porn or hardcore – Softporn is a bore. Hardcore in 80’s and now I like it with a decent story that goes along with the fucking. So yes I look like a dork standing in the adult movie section reading the backs of movies – I’ve even asked the gals that work there what they recommend.
Does watching the “unusual” turn you on? Unfortunatly the “unusual” I had to watch was women with animals – ick (old boyfriend and his friend were sick)
Does looking at porn pictures instead of movies work? More into pictures now..
Do you need or like to watch porn with a partner or just when you need some self lovin’? I’ve done both. If you do it with a guy you can guarentee you’re gonna have some rough lovin
Does phone sex turn you on? Again 80’s – I’ve done it in the present and masterbated for the guy on the other end so he could hear.. And the next time you see that guy in person for some reason you have a hard time looking him in the eye at first..
Sexting, is it a turn on for you? Takes to damn long to send a text like that and then you have to wait for there response and if they are a slow typer – your out of the mood 🙂
Do you like soft porn or hardcore “fuck me hard” porn? -I enjoy the better storyline/emotions you can sometimes get with the soft porn but the hardcore is definitely hotter.
Does watching the “unusual” turn you on? i.e. lesbian or gay porn when your 100% hetero, menage porn when you know you would never participate in one. BDSM porn? -I personally don’t generally enjoy seeing women naked in a sexual context so my preference is MM porn (MMF isn’t something I’ve watched as yet but I would). Other than that, how I like “unusual” depends on what it is and how it’s portrayed. I could enjoy “soft” BDSM (does that exist?), as in no real pain, maybe some spanking of the butt and pussy, restraints and/or blindfolds, but no gags or masks or whipping. Too much and I just turn cold.
Does looking at porn pictures instead of movies work? -Again it depends. Quality and content make a huge difference. As I mentioned, I’m not much into naked women but the picture above is really hot. Clearly he’s on the bottom but he looks likes he’s the top with that chain leash pulling her to him. Restraints and control can be very sexy visually.
Do you need or like to watch porn with a partner or just when you need some self lovin’? -Unfortunately I’ve not yet had the opportunity to watch with a partner but I would like to.
Does phone sex turn you on? -It’s not as much of a turn on physically as it is mentally. I love getting him to tell me what he fantasizes about, hearing him get hot about it, and imagining how I could give it to him in reality. I guess you could say it’s almost a control thing. I’d get a lot of satisfaction out of satisfying some of his wants and desires.
Sexting, is it a turn on for you? -I’ve not done it, but I would have to say it would only work one way for me because I don’t text normally since I find it so frustrating and time consuming. I’m normally a patient person but texting just chaps my cheeks since it can take so long to have a conversation. BUT…if it was one person sending random sexy comments to the other person all day, I think that would be hot. And the other person could take a turn another day. One person gets revved up all day and by the time they come together, he/she is ripping the other’s clothes off they’re so ready. Mm, yum.
Honestly though, my preference is erotic romance in reading since my imagination tends to be better than the images I get from porns, whether pictures or movies. I’d have to say though that I’d probably get better participation from a partner with porns than reading. Which just might be more satisfying depending on one’s partner. 😉
I have to admit that I never thought I could write erotica until I actually churned out my first. Now, I LOVE writing (and reading) MMF!! Something really hot about guys who can express their love for both guys and girls. Definitely love menage stories!! Hope my MMF stories are hot enough for y’all. 😀
Love sexting but not phone sex. Soft porn doesn’t do much for me but watching bdsm gay is way hot! The picture you posted with this blog is GREAT!!
Elizabeth, feel free to send us any books you would like reviewed…I LOVE M/M/F and BeckyC is our M/M officiando 😉
Thank you everyone for stopping by. It’s always interesting to see that I’m not the only one bent a certain way 😉
ps…I’m not into F/F/M but yes this picture is HOOOOTTTTT!!!
Lots of questions you asked there Naughty D!
I think porn can have a similar effect in that you can’t help but get aroused but so much of it is poorly done and there is no emotion at all. I get tired of just looking at couples doing the same thing in a different position. All the women do is moan and you’ll always see them bite a nail like it’s the most awesome thing ever. If that were the case then why the need for spit or lube.
I find the erotica stories where there are emotions and feelings behind the sex so much better than any porn video.
I can’t say pictures do much but that one you posted at the top is pretty darn hot. I think a m/m/f one would have been better!
No interest in phone sex and I think porn viewing is better with a partner. Also no soft porn because it always looks fake. If I’m going to take the time and money to watch it, I want something more than I can see on daytime soaps or an R rated movie. Sexting seems a little silly to me but maybe because I haven’t done it.
As for kind of porn, I’ve only seen m/f and m/f/m. I’d really like to watch m/m/f where the guys are engaged with each other but no f/f.
Will send some your way!! Thanks!! 🙂