I want to be a Cougar.
I’ve just celebrated the release of Catching a Cougar. It’s the second novella in a series of four stories based on older woman and their relationships with younger men. When I write these stories I often feel a little jealous of my female characters because I’ve decided that, for my next long term relationship, I want a younger man.
I have dated men that have been younger but usually when I get into what I call a living together situation it’s always been with someone older…a lot older. Now that I’m forty-six a lot older will probably mean dead, so I actually have no choice but to go young. At least that’s what I tell myself.
My reasons for wanting someone younger than me aren’t all based on the obvious. Yes, sex that actually last more than a few minutes is a big incentive, but not the only reason I want to be like one of the characters in the Sydney Cougar stories. My main reason for wanting younger is to have more stimulating conversations. Yes, I know that statement is like men saying they only read playboy for the articles, but it’s true. There are certain things that I never want to hear a man say to me again in my entire life.
If I could find someone like Justin from Catching a Cougar I know I’d be a happy woman. Young, fit, sexy, fun, emotionally available and excellent in bed, my life would be fulfilled. And of course, I would never have to listen to the following…
• Honey, do you know where my denture glue is?
• I need to take my Viagra first.
• I think my bald patch is getting bigger.
• Yes, I am always right.
• Sorry, were you watching that?
• Remember when you had pert tits and a tight ass like that?
• It would have cost a lot less if we’d stayed home and you’d cooked.
• I’m too tired, but you go to the party if you want to.
I realize that getting someone old enough to be sensible but young enough to still enjoy life might prove a challenge. But it’s a challenge I’m willing to take. My new motto for life is…now that I’ve grown up I want to be a cougar.
Justin Davies is twenty-eight. He manages Rubens nightclub, affectionately referred to as The Cougar Club. His life is good, except for one thing. A sexy little cougar has dumped him and Justin wants her back. He knows she is the only woman that can make his life complete, he also believes he can do the same for her. When Justin recruits some friends to help him catch his commitment phobic cougar, the fun begins.
Katie Swayne is thirty eight, an artist who’s finally started to achieve the success she always dreamed of. She doesn’t need anything to interfere with that, especially a relationship. Katie’s rule when it comes to men is, love them and leave them, never get emotionally involved. Then she met Justin Davies. Once Katie realized she cared for Justin, she didn’t merely walk away. Katie ran, as fast as she could, determined to never look back.
I might consider a younger man. Someone adventurous. I don’t feel my age so why would I want someone who is my age or older?
Absolutely. I feel the same on the inside as I did in my 20’s. I would never get involved with anyone less than a true adult both legally and mentally so I figure we both know what we’re getting into.
Yes!! I most definitly without a doubt would consider a younger man. Not too much younger though. Reason being their libido is still in high gear 🙂
Nothing like a man that can keep up with a woman!
~Ava~
Yes, I would most definitely consider a younger man, it would keep me young at heart. They also can be easier to train so I heard.
I wouldn’t kick a younger man out of my bed =) I’m 41 and my daughter is almost 19, so I think the lowest age for me would be 30 ish…
Fascinating Jan! Hubby and I have been married almost 25 years, we’ve been together for 28. He is one year older than me. I can honestly say in my entire dating life, I never dated a younger guy. I always dated older men because at the time I was still dating, they were more mature. However, at my current age (50, however I’m just 30 with lots of experience)…I would absolutely date younger men if I wasn’t married. Why you ask? Because people my age (both men and women) drive me nuts when all they want to talk about is their health ailments or their grandchildren….nope, not me. I’m not dead yet and I don’t intend to start acting like it. I have way too much life yet to live!
Before I met my husband, I had dated quite a few younger men. If I were single, I would definately go find me a man in his 30’s. The younger man would be in better condition to handle me, unlike my darling husband who has the bad back, etc. 🙂
I would definitely go for a younger man. Why not? You always see all these older men with younger women, so why not? I deserve to have some fun. So does he.
Joanne B
e.balinski(at)att(dot)net
I’ve never dated a younger man but wouldn’t rule it out.
I’m not sure. Don’t get me wrong, I have wondered if I would ever follow thru if the situation presented itself. More than likely, yes.
I am such a dork! I can’t imagine being with a younger man because I love my hubby. Besides, I have waited for more than 20 years for him to brew to this point. He gets a little more perfect every year!
jepebATverizonDOTnet
For me it would probably depend on the situation and the age gap. I think it is a little strange when I see someone who is in mid 30’s dating someone who is barely 20. I would not completely rule it out but I don’t want anybody that still needs raising. My mom is 5 years older than my dad so it can work. Of course, my mom said for years she was waiting for me and my sister to grow up so there would be another adult in the house.
E. Thompson
thompsonem3(at)aol(dot)com
This series sounds pretty good!!!
Sharon said it well!! Absolutely yes!! If I wasn’t married I would most definitely go for a younger man. My hubby is a bit older than me and is now suffering major health ailments which keeps things to a minimum sometimes. It is a bummer!!
Mel
I only dated one person younger than me and it wasn’t by much. If something were to happen to my hubby I would definately consider a younger man. My current hubby is 15 yrs my senior so I guess I should try the other…lol
musicalfrog at comcast.net
I wouldn’t, but I like reading about them. Thanks!
I guess you could say that I am a cougar as my husband is 6 years younger. I was 29 and he was 24 when we met and we are both in our 40’s now. It works for us.
Yes I think I would enjoy dating a younger man and for the lovin’ of course.
Yes, I would consider dating someone younger. Age is a number, that I am coming to realize. If you connect what does age matter
Shelly
The last time that I dated a younger guy was in high school. I was a senior and he was a sophomore. I did feel like a “cradle robber.” NOW, since I recently hit the big 5-0, I find the idea of dating a younger man very appealing! Of course my older hubby is the light of my life, but that doesn’t mean I won’t fantasize about a younger man–LOL.
Thank you Jan for a fun post. And steamy read!
Thanks all for stopping by!
Congrats Joanne B you won a digital copy of Catching A Cougar